Do you have a child that easily cries or that is scared a lot? It is hard raising a child like this. Life is hard, and we want strong children. How do you help your child? Emotions are very complicated things for anyone to understand. Understanding emotions is something we have to teach our children.
Tenderhearted versus weak
My husband likes to tell me I have “un corazon de pollo,” which translates out as a chicken heart. It is his way of saying that I am tenderhearted. Being tenderhearted does not mean you are weak, so we may not need to worry so much for our children. Emotions are a good thing because we do not want to become unfeeling robots. Too often we toughen up our children by making them ignore their emotions. We worry our children could become easy targets for bullying. What should we do?
How do we help them, without changing them
Be aware and available.
You are already doing the first step. Pay attention to their changing moods. Make sure they know you are available if they need to talk. I make sure my children know they can talk to me about anything whenever they need me.
Get them to voice their emotions
If I see something is bothering my children, I ask them how they feel. Listing off some different emotions may help them. You may have to ask a couple times, but this is an important step. You want to acknowledge the emotions.
Help them understand why?
Next comes the hardest part. You have to find the root of the problem because it may not be what it seems. I have a son who can become angry quickly, but I have learned that most times there is something else bothering him. This will take time. It may help to know your child’s love language.
God our Father has given us a book full of encouragement. You can post verses where your child can see them, so that it will encourage your child when dealing with tough emotions. Don’t forget to pray for your child.
- Deuteronomy 31:6 “Be determined and confident. Do not be afraid of them. Your God, the LORD himself, will be with you. He will not fail you or abandon you.”
- Psalm 34:14 “Turn away from evil and do good; strive for peace with all your heart.”
- Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart. Never rely on what you think you know.Remember the LORD in everything you do, and he will show you the right way.”
- Proverbs 3:26 “The LORD will keep you safe. He will not let you fall into a trap.”
- John 14:27 “Peace is what I leave with you; it is my own peace that I give you. I do not give it as the world does. Do not be worried and upset; do not be afraid.”
- James 1:19 “Remember this, my dear brothers and sisters! Everyone must be quick to listen, but slow to speak and slow to become angry.”
Don’t get discouraged. Being a parent is difficult, and you are doing a great job.
“My deep desire and hope is that I shall never fail in my duty, buy that at all times, and especially just now, I shall be full of courage, so that with my whole being I shall bring honor to Christ,” (Phillippians 1:20)
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