Our lives are full of things we love: our parents, our siblings, our spouse, children, clothes, food, and even TV shows. The main focus here, are the special people in our lives. All these people show and feel loved differently. Yet love has become oversimplified. Do you ever wonder why you try so hard to show love, and you feel like you have achieved nothing? My husband would always tell me he loved me, but I didn’t feel loved. Love can be a confusing feeling, but it can be so much more!
Where to start
There are so many resources out there now telling you what you should do. I am sure you can even find a list telling you how to love someone in 5 easy little steps. Loving someone isn’t done in easy steps.
Have you ever been introduced to the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman?
I give this book as a present for weddings. It doesn’t seem like much, but I can probably even say that it has changed my life. I know it seems a little extreme. No, it isn’t some magic formula. It helps you understand that love is a verb. It helps you simplify and understand how other people feel loved.
Does it really work?
I read this book about five years ago, and it helped my marriage. It also shows us how we are sabotaging our relationships. My husband and I speak different love languages. We both loved each other, but we were missing a deep emotional connection. In his books, he walks you through all five languages: Quality Time, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, and Acts of Service. There is a list of suggestions at the end of each chapter.
Been there, done that
I love these books because they are quick to read and help you get started. He also has books to help you with your season of life. I just finished reading his book for military families. This has helped me find ways to show my husband love while we are separated. (You can find my story here if you haven’t already read it). He also has one for children, teenagers, men, and even singles. You can even take a quiz to find your love language right here.
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